Thursday, March 07, 2019

I simply don't believe utopia is going to happen - Donald Miller

I simply don't believe utopia is going to happen. I don't believe we are going to be rescued. I don't believe an active man will make things on earth perfect, and I don't believe God will intervene before I die, or for that matter before you die. I believe instead we will go on longing for a resolution that will  not come, not within life as we know it, anyway.
If you think about it an enormous amount of damage is created by the myth of utopia. There is an intrinsic feeling in nearly every person that your life could be perfect that if you only had such and such a car, or such and such spouse, or such and such job. We believe we will be made whole by our accomplishments, our positions, our social status. It's written in the fabric of our DNA that life used to be beautiful and now it isn't, and if only this and if only that it would be beautiful again.
Donald Miller  - A Million Miles in a Thousand Years.



Wednesday, January 30, 2019

A conference - Fred Allen

A conference is a gathering of important people who singly can do nothing but together can decide that nothing can be done. Fred Allen 1894

California is a fine place to live in - Fred Allen

California is a fine place to live in - if you happen to be an orange

Fred Allen 1894

Sunday, December 30, 2018

Desiring God: If We Love God Most, We Will Love Others Best

Article by 
Jon Bloom
Staff writer, desiringGod.org
The most loving thing we can do for others is love God more than we love them. For if we love God most, we will love others best.
I know this sounds like preposterous gobbledygook to an unbeliever. How can you love someone best by loving someone else most? But those who have encountered the living Christ understand what I mean. They know the depth of love and breadth of grace that flows out from them toward others when they themselves are filled with love for God and all he is for them and means to them in Jesus. And they know the comparatively shallow and narrow love they feel toward others when their affection for God is ebbing.
There’s a reason why Jesus said the second greatest commandment is like the first: if we love God with all our heart, we will love our neighbor as ourselves (Matthew 22:37–39). It functions like faith and works; if we truly have the first, the second naturally follows.
But if God is not the love of our life, there is no way that we will truly love our neighbor as ourselves. For we will love ourselves supremely.
He First Loved Us
The reason we will love others best when we love God most is that love in its truest, purest form only comes from God, because God is love (1 John 4:7–8). Love is a fundamental part of his nature. We are only able to love him or anyone else because he first loved us (1 John 4:19). We are only able to give freely to others what we have received freely from him.
And as God’s image-bearers (Genesis 1:26), we are designed to love God and others in the same way that God loves God and others. God, being the most pure, perfect, powerful, and precious entity in existence, must love himself most in order to love everything else best, since everything else is “from him and through him and to him” (Romans 11:36). If God loved something or someone else more than himself he would be violating the first commandment (Exodus 20:3) and the foremost commandment (Matthew 22:37–38). For God to love something or someone more than himself would be inappropriate, perverted, immoral. Like God, we must love him supremely in order to love everything else best.
The Horrible Result of Not Loving God Most
When we (or anything else, if that’s possible) become our supreme love instead of God, love becomes distorted and diseased. Love ends up devolving into whatever we wish for it to mean.
This is a great evil, greater than we often realize. This is the world as we know it: everyone loves in the way that is right in his own eyes. Which of course means that everyone hates in the way that is right in his own eyes. They become supreme “lovers of self” (2 Timothy 3:2) and live “in the passions of [their] flesh, carrying out the desires of the body and the mind,” since they were “children of wrath” (Ephesians 2:3). It is not hard to understand why there is so much confusion and conflict and heartbreak and violence in the world. We live in an anarchy of love resulting in much of the horrifying things we hear in the news.
The Greatest Love Ever Shown
But God, being rich in mercy (Ephesians 2:4), “so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life” (John 3:16). The author and perfecter of love, Love himself, stepped into our horrible evil anarchy to redeem us (Romans 5:8), his people, and give us new life (Ephesians 2:5), and transform us from children of wrath back into children of God (John 1:12) who are able to love him supremely and therefore love each other rightly — the way he has loved us.
And how has he loved us? With the greatest love there is, the love that moves one to lay down his life for his friends (John 15:13). But this doesn’t mean that Jesus loved us, his friends, more than his Father. It means that Jesus loved us best because he loved his Father most (John 17:26; Mark 14:36). And “if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another” (1 John 4:11).
What May Be Our Most Loving Act Today
So we see that if we love God most, we will love others best.
I find this to be a convicting and uncomfortable truth: How we love others, particularly other Christians, reveals how we love God. The apostle John puts it bluntly: “He who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen (1 John 4:20). Our love for each other is an indicator of the place God is holding in our hearts.
God is very good at designing things this way: our faith is revealed by our works (James 2:18), our creeds are revealed by our deeds (Luke 6:46), and our love for him is revealed by our love for others (1 John 4:20). He makes it very hard for us to fake it. And this is a great kindness (Romans 2:4).
Since the greatest and second greatest commandments are involved in these things, we know they are important to God. So perhaps the best thing we can do today is take an honest, lingering look at the way we love others, allow what we see to have its Philippians 2:12effect on us, and ask God what he would have us do in response.
We may find that this is the most loving thing we will do for everyone else today.
Jon Bloom (@Bloom_Jon) serves as author, board chair, and co-founder of Desiring God. He is author of three books, Not by Sight, Things Not Seen, and Don’t Follow Your Heart. He and his wife live in the Twin Cities with their five children.
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Tuesday, December 25, 2018

Theology is but an appendix...Toyohiko Kagawa







"Theology is but an appendix to love, and an unreliable appendix!"


Japanese evangelist Toyohiko Kagawa 

Tuesday, December 18, 2018

Lyons Carrot Cake

Lyons Carrot Cake

   2 - Cups Flour
1.5 - Teaspoons Soda
   2 -  Teaspoons Baking Powder
   1 - Teaspoons Salt
1.5 - Teaspoon Cinnamon
   1 - Teaspoon Nutmeg
   2 - Cups Sugar
1.5 - Oil
   4 - Eggs, beaten
   1 - (8.25 ounce) Crushed Pineapple, Drained *
   2 - Cups Grated Carrots
0.5 - Cups Raisins
0.5 - Cups Walnuts
Cream Cheese Frosting

Sift together the flour, soda, baking powder, salt, cinnamon, nutmeg and sugar.  Add oil, eggs, drained pineapple, carrots, raisins, and walnuts. Mix well and turn into a greased and flowered bundt pan. Bake at 350 degrees for 1 hour. Ice with Cream Cheese frosting.

Cream Cheese Frosting
  1 Pound - Powder Sugar
  1.5 Cups - Sugar
  1(8 Ounce) Package Cream Cheese
    1 -  Teaspoon Vanilla

For best flavor let sit for two days before serving

*  - A little bit more Pineapple is not bad and will make the cake moister include some juice
 - Adding a little bit of the pineapple juice will intensify the flavor.
 - Mix carrot grating with fine and heavy creates a lighter texture using half whole wheat will create a bit heavier but delightful cake.
 - Half Brown sugar brings out a richer flavor.
- Coconut - flakes or grated is terrible in texture and never desired though replacing the oil with coconut oil might be enjoyable.
- Using grape seed oil has proven to improve flavor and density

Wednesday, December 05, 2018

Albert Einstein On Religion

Einstein says: “The word God is for me nothing more than the expression and product of human weaknesses, the Bible a collection of honorable, but still primitive, legends which are nevertheless pretty childish.”
Albert Einstein

The one-and-a-half page letter, written in 1954 in German and addressed to the philosopher Eric Gutkind, contains reflections on God, the bible and Judaism.


https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/lifestyle-buzz/albert-einsteins-god-letter-reflecting-on-religion-up-for-auction/ar-BBQtzAp?OCID=ansmsnnews11

- Islam, Religion, Judaism, Christianity,

Sunday, November 18, 2018

CH Spurgeon

I see it publicly stated, by some who call themselves Christians, that it is good for Christians to attend the theatre, so that the tone and character of the productions may be improved. The suggestion is about as sensible as if we were bidden to pour a bottle of lavender water into the main sewer to improve its aroma.
CH Spurgeon

- Entertainment, Culture,

Tuesday, October 16, 2018

Difficult People

https://www.netcredit.com/blog/


How Smart People Handle Difficult People
Difficult people defy logic. Some are blissfully unaware of the negative impact that they have on those around them, and others seem to derive satisfaction from creating chaos and pushing other people’s buttons. Either way, they create unnecessary complexity, strife and worst of all stress.
Studies have long shown that stress can have a lasting, negative impact on the brain. Exposure to even a few days of stress compromises the effectiveness of neurons in the hippocampus -- an important brain area responsible for reasoning and memory. Weeks of stress cause reversible damage to neuronal dendrites (the small “arms” that brain cells use to communicate with each other), and months of stress can permanently destroy neurons. Stress is a formidable threat to your success -- when stress gets out of control, your brain and your performance suffer.
Most sources of stress at work are easy to identify. If your non-profit is working to land a grant that your organization needs to function, you’re bound to feel stress and likely know how to manage it. It's the unexpected sources of stress that take you by surprise and harm you the most.
Recent research from the Department of Biological and Clinical Psychology at Friedrich Schiller University in Germany found that exposure to stimuli that cause strong negative emotions -- the same kind of exposure you get when dealing with difficult people -- caused subjects’ brains to have a massive stress response. Whether it's negativity, cruelty, the victim syndrome or just plain craziness, difficult people drive your brain into a stressed-out state that should be avoided at all costs.
The ability to manage your emotions and remain calm under pressure has a direct link to your performance. TalentSmart has conducted research with more than a million people, and we’ve found that 90 percent of top performers are skilled at managing their emotions in times of stress in order to remain calm and in control. One of their greatest gifts is the ability to neutralize difficult people. Top performers have well-honed coping strategies that they employ to keep difficult people at bay.
While I’ve run across numerous effective strategies that smart people employ when dealing with difficult people, what follows are some of the best. To deal with difficult people effectively, you need an approach that enables you, across the board, to control what you can and eliminate what you can’t. The important thing to remember is that you are in control of far more than you realize.

1. They set limits. 

Complainers and negative people are bad news because they wallow in their problems and fail to focus on solutions. They want people to join their pity party so that they can feel better about themselves. People often feel pressure to listen to complainers because they don’t want to be seen as callous or rude, but there’s a fine line between lending a sympathetic ear and getting sucked into their negative emotional spiral.
You can avoid this only by setting limits and distancing yourself when necessary. Think of it this way: if the complainer were smoking, would you sit there all afternoon inhaling the second-hand smoke? You’d distance yourself, and you should do the same with complainers. A great way to set limits is to ask complainers how they intend to fix the problem. They will either quiet down or redirect the conversation in a productive direction.

2. They rise above. 

Difficult people drive you crazy because their behavior is so irrational. Make no mistake about it; their behavior truly goes against reason. So why do you allow yourself to respond to them emotionally and get sucked into the mix? The more irrational and off-base someone is, the easier it should be for you to remove yourself from their traps. Quit trying to beat them at their own game. Distance yourself from them emotionally and approach your interactions like they’re a science project (or you’re their shrink, if you prefer the analogy). You don’t need to respond to the emotional chaos -- only the facts.

3. They stay aware of their emotions. 

Maintaining an emotional distance requires awareness. You can’t stop someone from pushing your buttons if you don’t recognize when it’s happening. Sometimes you’ll find yourself in situations where you’ll need to regroup and choose the best way forward. This is fine and you shouldn’t be afraid to buy yourself some time to do so.
Think of it this way -- if a mentally unstable person approaches you on the street and tells you he’s John F. Kennedy, you’re unlikely to set him straight. When you find yourself with a coworker who is engaged in similarly derailed thinking, sometimes it’s best to just smile and nod. If you’re going to have to straighten them out, it’s better to give yourself some time to plan the best way to go about it.

4. They establish boundaries. 

This is the area where most people tend to sell themselves short. They feel like because they work or live with someone, they have no way to control the chaos. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Once you’ve found your way to Rise Above a person, you’ll begin to find their behavior more predictable and easier to understand. This will equip you to think rationally about when and where you have to put up with them and when you don’t. For example, even if you work with someone closely on a project team, that doesn’t mean that you need to have the same level of one-on-one interaction with them that you have with other team members.
You can establish a boundary, but you’ll have to do so consciously and proactively. If you let things happen naturally, you are bound to find yourself constantly embroiled in difficult conversations. If you set boundaries and decide when and where you’ll engage a difficult person, you can control much of the chaos. The only trick is to stick to your guns and keep boundaries in place when the person tries to encroach upon them, which they will.

5. They don’t die in the fight. 

Smart people know how important it is to live to fight another day, especially when your foe is a toxic individual. In conflict, unchecked emotion makes you dig your heels in and fight the kind of battle that can leave you severely damaged. When you read and respond to your emotions, you’re able to choose your battles wisely and only stand your ground when the time is right.

6. They don't focus on problems -- only solutions. 

Where you focus your attention determines your emotional state. When you fixate on the problems you’re facing, you create and prolong negative emotions and stress. When you focus on actions to better yourself and your circumstances, you create a sense of personal efficacy that produces positive emotions and reduces stress.
When it comes to toxic people, fixating on how crazy and difficult they are gives them power over you. Quit thinking about how troubling your difficult person is, and focus instead on how you're going to go about handling them. This makes you more effective by putting you in control, and it will reduce the amount of stress you experience when interacting with them.

7. They don’t forget. 

Emotionally intelligent people are quick to forgive, but that doesn’t mean that they forget. Forgiveness requires letting go of what’s happened so that you can move on. It doesn’t mean you’ll give a wrongdoer another chance. Smart people are unwilling to be bogged down unnecessarily by others’ mistakes, so they let them go quickly and are assertive in protecting themselves from future harm.

8. They squash negative self-talk. 

Sometimes you absorb the negativity of other people. There’s nothing wrong with feeling bad about how someone is treating you, but your self-talk (the thoughts you have about your feelings) can either intensify the negativity or help you move past it. Negative self-talk is unrealistic, unnecessary and self-defeating. It sends you into a downward emotional spiral that is difficult to pull out of. You should avoid negative self-talk at all costs.

9. They get some sleep. 

I’ve beaten this one to death over the years and can’t say enough about the importance of sleep to increasing your emotional intelligence and managing your stress levels. When you sleep, your brain literally recharges, so that you wake up alert and clear-headed. Your self-control, attention and memory are all reduced when you don’t get enough -- or the right kind -- of sleep. Sleep deprivation raises stress hormone levels on its own, even without a stressor present. A good night’s sleep makes you more positive, creative and proactive in your approach to toxic people, giving you the perspective you need to deal effectively with them.

10. They use their support system. 

It’s tempting, yet entirely ineffective, to attempt tackling everything by yourself. To deal with toxic people, you need to recognize the weaknesses in your approach to them. This means tapping into your support system to gain perspective on a challenging person. Everyone has someone at work and/or outside work who is on their team, rooting for them and ready to help them get the best from a difficult situation. Identify these individuals in your life and make an effort to seek their insight and assistance when you need it. Something as simple as explaining the situation can lead to a new perspective. Most of the time, other people can see a solution that you can’t because they are not as emotionally invested in the situation.

Bringing It All Together

Before you get this system to work brilliantly, you’re going to have to pass some tests. Most of the time, you will find yourself tested by touchy interactions with problem people. Thankfully, the plasticity of the brain allows it to mold and change as you practice new behaviors, even when you fail. Implementing these healthy, stress-relieving techniques for dealing with difficult people will train your brain to handle stress more effectively and decrease the likelihood of ill effects.
version of this article appeared on TalentSmart.
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Sunday, August 26, 2018

By it I see everything else - CS Lewis

I believe in Christianity as I believe that the sun has risen not only because I see it but by it I see everything else. CS Lewis Essays, The Search for God, what are we to make of Jesus Christ

Capitalism vs Communism


The problem with capitalism is, its people using people.
The problem with socialism/communism is the reverse.


- Socialism, People, Communism, Capitalism,

Interview/Article on Getting the right outcome or highest and best

That was weirdly fun. Apple was a very crazy place. It was very much a leadership-focused company. It was very aggressive. Sometimes you feel like what they're doing is a little crazy. They really reach for things, but they also really believe in focus. One of [Steve Jobs’] famous quotes was, "Why screw up two things when you can only get one thing right?"
Apple did a couple things really, really well. Focus. Make it as good as you possibly can, and have confidence in your engineering decisions and expertise.
When I talk to I*** engineers, the expertise here is great, but they're talking about asking customers what they think about this and that — as opposed to coming up with the best possible thing.
There's a lot of trying to figure out what the market needs, and what's the best trade-off between performance and cost, as opposed to what the best thing is we could possibly do. The interesting thing about the best you can do is that helps you push the envelope.

- apple, development, Technology, leadership,

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