- Real Think, Double Speak,
Tuesday, March 18, 2014
How Men Think
- Men are not mind readers.
- Learn to Work the toilet seat. You’re a big girl. If it’s up, put it down. we need it up. You need it down. You don’t hear us complain when you leave it down.
- Crying is blackmail
- As for what you want. Let us be clear on this on.
- Subtle hints do not work!
- Strong Hints do not work!
- Obvious hinds to do not work!
- Just say it!
- Yes and no are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.
- Come to us with problems only if you want help solving it. That’s what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
- Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, al comments become null and void after 7 days.
- If you think your fat you probably are. Don’t ask us.
- If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry we meant the other one.
- One can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it done. Not both. I you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
- Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to do during commercials.
- Christopher Columbus did not need direction and neither do we.
- All men see in only 17 colours, like windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, Not a colour. pumpkin is also a vegetable or fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.
- If ask what is wrong and you say, Nothing,” we act like nothing’s wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
- I you ask a question you don’t want an answer to. Expect an answer you don’t want to hear.
- When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine, really
- Don’t ask what we’re thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as football or mortar sports.
- You have enough clothes
- You have to many shoe
- I am in shape, round is a shape
Thank You for reading this, Yes, I know, I'm sleeping on the couch tonight...but did you know men don't mind that? It's like camping....
Monday, March 17, 2014
Mac Hammond on Marriage
Author: Mac Hammond
Source: Heirs together
Pg 15 But what if I married the wrong person many people ask. You'd be amazed how many people the devil torments with that question.
I remember a young lady who came to my office on day and insisted she had gotten out of God's will, married the wrong person. Now she was doomed to suffer until she got rid of him and found the right one or so she thought.
...
God causes all things to work together for Good to those who love Christ and are called according to His purpose (Rom 8.28). Maybe you did miss God's best when you chose your spouse. Maybe you were in rebellion at the time. But God still wants to make that marriage glorious, fulfilling reflection of Jesus' relationship with he church. He's committed to working that situation out for Good.
All you need to do is determine to make it work.
The first attitude adjustment is decide once and forever that divorce is not an option. If you continue to consider divorce as even a remote possibility, you might as well stop reading this article ad go watch television, because it isn't going to do you any good.
The second attitude adjustment you may need to make is this: you must be concerned with changing not one but yourself.
The third attitude adjustment you must make is forget the past. Y what do you need to forget. the Good things and things and the bad things. They are startled to hear they should forget the good things in their past. If you dwell on how good things were in the past, you're creating in yourself dissatisfaction and resentment about the way things are now. you also open yourself up to a spirit of grief and despair. It happens allt the time. Women talk about how effectionate and considerate their husbands used to be, how attentive he was. But now, he's just an inconsiderate louse.
Dwelling on the good things in the past will distort your perception of the present and undermine your hope for the future
Sunday, March 16, 2014
Christian Hedonism by John Piper Desiring God Ch 9
Most
men are not satisfied with the permanent output of their
lives.
Nothing can wholly satisfy the life of Christ within his
followers
except the adoption of Christ's purpose toward the
world
he came to redeem. Fame, pleasure and riches are but
husks
and ashes in contrast with the boundless and abiding joy
of
working with God for the fulfillment of his eternal plans. The
men
who are putting everything into Christ's undertaking are
getting
out of life its sweetest and most priceless rewards.
J.
Campbell White ( 1909)
Secretary
of the Laymen's Missionary Movement
Surely
there can be no greater joy
than
that of saving souls.
Lottie
Moon (1887)
"Patron
Saint of Baptist Missions"
Chapter
9
Missions:
The
Battle Cry of Christian Hedonism
Did Moses or Paul Retire?
Most
men don't die of old age, they die of retirement. I read somewhere
that half of the men retiring in the state of New York die within two
years. Save your life and you'll lose it. Just like other drugs,
other psychological addictions, retirement is a virulent disease, not
a blessing.1
These
are the words of Ralph Winter, founder of the United States Center
for World Mission. His life and strategy have been a constant summons
to young and old that the only way to find life is to give it away.
He is one of my heroes. He says so many things that Christian
Hedonists ought to say (although he wishes I would not use the word
"hedonist")!
Not only does he call retired Christians to quit throwing their lives away on the golf course when they could be giving themselves to the global cause of Christ, but he also calls students to go hard after the fullest and deepest joy of life. In his little pamphlet, "Say Yes to Missions," he says, "Jesus, for the joy that was set before him, endured the cross, despising the shame . . . To follow him is your choice. You're warned! But don't forget the joy."
In fact, in all my reading outside the Bible over the past fifteen years, the greatest source of affirmation for my emerging Christian Hedonism has been from missionary literature, especially biographies. And those who have suffered most seem to state the truth most unashamedly. I will tell you some of my findings in this chapter.
But first, back to the issue of retirement. Winter asks, "Where in the Bible do they see that? Did Moses retire? Did Paul retire? Peter? John? Do military officers retire in the middle of a war?"2 Good questions. If we try to answer them in the case of the apostle Paul, we bump right into a definition of "missions" which is what we need here at the beginning of this chapter.
As Paul writes his letter to the Romans, he has been a missionary for about twenty years. He was between twenty and forty years old (that's the range implied in the Greek word for "young man" in Acts 7:58) when he was converted. We may guess, then, that he was perhaps around fifty as he writes this great letter.
That may sound young to us. But remember two things: In those days, life expectancy was less, and Paul had led an incredibly stressful life-five times whipped with thirty-nine lashes, three times beaten with rods, once stoned, three times shipwrecked, constantly on the move and constantly in danger (2 Corinthians 11:24-29).
By our contemporary standards he should perhaps be "letting up" and planning for retirement. But in Romans 15 he says he is planning to go to Spain! In fact, the reason for writing to the Romans was largely to enlist their support for this great new frontier mission. Paul is not about to retire. Vast areas of the empire are unreached, not to mention the regions beyond ! So he says,
Not only does he call retired Christians to quit throwing their lives away on the golf course when they could be giving themselves to the global cause of Christ, but he also calls students to go hard after the fullest and deepest joy of life. In his little pamphlet, "Say Yes to Missions," he says, "Jesus, for the joy that was set before him, endured the cross, despising the shame . . . To follow him is your choice. You're warned! But don't forget the joy."
In fact, in all my reading outside the Bible over the past fifteen years, the greatest source of affirmation for my emerging Christian Hedonism has been from missionary literature, especially biographies. And those who have suffered most seem to state the truth most unashamedly. I will tell you some of my findings in this chapter.
But first, back to the issue of retirement. Winter asks, "Where in the Bible do they see that? Did Moses retire? Did Paul retire? Peter? John? Do military officers retire in the middle of a war?"2 Good questions. If we try to answer them in the case of the apostle Paul, we bump right into a definition of "missions" which is what we need here at the beginning of this chapter.
As Paul writes his letter to the Romans, he has been a missionary for about twenty years. He was between twenty and forty years old (that's the range implied in the Greek word for "young man" in Acts 7:58) when he was converted. We may guess, then, that he was perhaps around fifty as he writes this great letter.
That may sound young to us. But remember two things: In those days, life expectancy was less, and Paul had led an incredibly stressful life-five times whipped with thirty-nine lashes, three times beaten with rods, once stoned, three times shipwrecked, constantly on the move and constantly in danger (2 Corinthians 11:24-29).
By our contemporary standards he should perhaps be "letting up" and planning for retirement. But in Romans 15 he says he is planning to go to Spain! In fact, the reason for writing to the Romans was largely to enlist their support for this great new frontier mission. Paul is not about to retire. Vast areas of the empire are unreached, not to mention the regions beyond ! So he says,
Now,
since I no longer have any room for work in these regions, and since
I have longed for many years to come to you, I hope to see you in
passing as I go to Spain, and to be sped on my journey there by you,
once I have enjoyed your company for a little. (Romans 15:23-24)
Paul was probably killed in Rome before he could ever fulfill his dream of preaching in Spain. But one thing is certain: He was cut down in combat, not in retirement. He was moving on to the frontier instead of settling down to bask in his amazing accomplishments. Right here we learn the meaning of missions.
The Meaning of Frontier Missions
How could Paul possibly say in Romans 15:23, "I no longer have any room for work in these regions"? There were thousands of unbelievers left to be converted in Judea and Samaria and Syria and Asia and Macedonia and Achaia. That is obvious from Paul's instructions to the churches on how to relate to unbelievers. But Paul has no room for work!
The explanation is given in verses 19-21,
From
Jerusalem and as far round as Illyricum I have fully preached the
gospel of Christ, thus making it my ambition to preach the gospel,
not where Christ has already been named, lest I build on another
man's foundation, but as it is written,
They
shall see who have never been told of him, and they shall understand
who have never heard of him.
Paul's
missionary strategy is to preach where nobody has preached before.
This is what we mean by Frontier Missions. Paul had a passion to go
where there were no established churches-that meant Spain.
What is amazing in these verses is that Paul can say he has fully preached (literally: "fulfilled") the gospel from Jerusalem in southern Palestine to Illyricum northwest of Greece! To understand this is to understand the meaning of Frontier Missions. Frontier Missions is very different from domestic evangelism. There were thousands of people yet to be converted from Jerusalem to Illyricum. But the task of Frontier Missions was finished. Paul's job of "planting" was done and would now be followed by someone else's "watering" ( 1 Corinthians 3:6).
So when I speak of missions in this chapter, I generally refer to the Christian church's ongoing effort to carry on Paul's strategy: preaching the gospel of Jesus Christ and planting his church among groups of people who have not yet been reached.
What is amazing in these verses is that Paul can say he has fully preached (literally: "fulfilled") the gospel from Jerusalem in southern Palestine to Illyricum northwest of Greece! To understand this is to understand the meaning of Frontier Missions. Frontier Missions is very different from domestic evangelism. There were thousands of people yet to be converted from Jerusalem to Illyricum. But the task of Frontier Missions was finished. Paul's job of "planting" was done and would now be followed by someone else's "watering" ( 1 Corinthians 3:6).
So when I speak of missions in this chapter, I generally refer to the Christian church's ongoing effort to carry on Paul's strategy: preaching the gospel of Jesus Christ and planting his church among groups of people who have not yet been reached.
The
Need for Frontier Missions
My assumption is that people without the gospel are without hope, because only the gospel can free them from their sin. Therefore missions is utterly essential in the life of a loving church, though not all Christians believe this.
Walbert Buhlmann, a Catholic missions secretary in Rome, spoke for many mainline denominational leaders when he said,
My assumption is that people without the gospel are without hope, because only the gospel can free them from their sin. Therefore missions is utterly essential in the life of a loving church, though not all Christians believe this.
Walbert Buhlmann, a Catholic missions secretary in Rome, spoke for many mainline denominational leaders when he said,
In
the past we had the so-called motive of saving souls. We were
convinced that if not baptized, people in the masses would go to
hell. Now, thanks be to God, we believe that all people and all
religions are already living in the grace and love of God and will be
saved by God's mercy.3
Sister Emmanuelle of Cairo, Egypt, said, "Today we don't talk about conversion any more. We talk about being friends. My job is to prove that God is love and to bring courage to these people."4
It is natural to want to believe in a God who saves all men no matter what they believe or do. But it is not biblical.5 Essential teachings of Scripture must be rejected to believe in such a God. Listen to the words of the Son of God when he called the apostle Paul into missionary service:
I
have appeared to you for this purpose, to appoint you to serve and
bear witness to the things in which you have seen me and to those in
which I will appear to you, delivering you from the people and from
the Gentiles-to whom I send you to open their eyes, that they may
turn from darkness to light and from the power of Satan to God, that
they may receive forgiveness of sins and a place among those who are
sanctified by faith in me. (Acts 26:16-18)
This
is an empty commission if in fact the eyes of the nations don't need
to be opened, and they don't need to turn from darkness to light, and
don't need to escape the power of Satan to come to God, and don't
need the forgiveness of sins that comes only by faith in Christ who
is preached by the Lord's ambassadors. Paul did not give his life as
a missionary to Asia and Macedonia and Greece and Rome and Spain to
inform people they were already saved. He gave himself that "by
any means [he] might save some" ( 1 Corinthians 9:22).
So when Paul's message about Christ was rejected (for example, at Antioch by the Jews), he said, "Since you thrust the word of God from you and judge yourselves unworthy of eternal life, behold, we turn to the Gentiles" (Acts 13 :46). At stake in missionary outreach to unreached peoples is eternal life! Conversion to Christ from any and every other allegiance is precisely the aim. "For there is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved" (Acts 4:12).
The Justice of God in Judgment and Salvation
God is not unjust. No one will be condemned for not believing a message they have never heard. Those who have never heard the gospel will be judged by their failure to own up to the light of God's grace and power in nature and in their own conscience. This is the point of Romans 1:20-21.
So when Paul's message about Christ was rejected (for example, at Antioch by the Jews), he said, "Since you thrust the word of God from you and judge yourselves unworthy of eternal life, behold, we turn to the Gentiles" (Acts 13 :46). At stake in missionary outreach to unreached peoples is eternal life! Conversion to Christ from any and every other allegiance is precisely the aim. "For there is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved" (Acts 4:12).
The Justice of God in Judgment and Salvation
God is not unjust. No one will be condemned for not believing a message they have never heard. Those who have never heard the gospel will be judged by their failure to own up to the light of God's grace and power in nature and in their own conscience. This is the point of Romans 1:20-21.
Ever
since the creation of the world his invisible nature, namely his
eternal power and deity, have been clearly perceived in the things
that have been made. So they are without excuse: for although they
knew God they did not glorify him as God or give thanks to him.
Apart
from the special, saving grace of God, people are dead in sin,
darkened in their understanding, alienated from the life of God and
hardened in heart (Ephesians 2:1, 4:18). And the means God has
ordained to administer that special saving grace is the preaching of
the gospel of Jesus Christ.
I
am a debtor both to the Greeks and to the barbarians, both to the
wise and to the foolish; so I am eager to preach the gospel to you
also who are in Rome. For I am not ashamed of the gospel: It is the
power of God for salvation to everyone who believes. (Romans 1:14-16)
The Effects of Universalism on Missions
The notion that people are saved without hearing the gospel has wreaked havoc in the missions effort of denominations and churches that minimize the biblical teaching of human lostness without Christ. Between 1953 and 1980, the overseas missionary force of mainline Protestant churches of North America decreased from 9,844 to 2,813, while the missionary force of evangelical Protestants, who take this biblical teaching more seriously, increased by more than 200 percent. The Christian and Missionary Alliance, for example, with its 200,000 members, supports forty percent more missionaries than the United Methodist Church with its 9.5 million members. There is amazing missionary power in taking seriously all the Word of God.6
Many Christians thought the end of the colonial era after the Second World War was also the end of foreign missions. The gospel had more or less penetrated every country in the world. But what we have become keenly aware of in the last generation is that the command of Jesus to make disciples of "every nation" does not refer to political nations as we know them today. Nor does it mean every individual, as though the great commission could not be completed until every individual were made a disciple.
What Are People Groups?
We are increasingly aware that the intention of God is for every "people group" to be evangelized-that a thriving church be planted in every group. No one can exactly define what a people group is. But we get a rough idea from passages like Revelation 7:9.
After
this I looked, and behold, a great multitude which no man could
number from every nation, from all tribes and peoples and tongues,
standing before the throne and before the Lamb ....
It
is almost impossible to draw precise distinctions between "nations,"
"tribes," "peoples" and "tongues." But
what is clear is that God's redemptive purpose is not complete just
because there are disciples of Jesus in all twentieth-century
"nations," i.e., political states. Within those countries
are thousands of tribes and castes and subcultures and languages.
So the remaining task of Frontier Missions no longer is conceived mainly in geographic terms. The question now is, "Where are the unreached people groups?"7
Since the first edition of Desiring God appeared in 1986 there has been tremendous progress in the cooperation of mission agencies, denominations and churches in the tasks of researching and evangelizing the unreached peoples of the world. There is now basic agreement that "of the 12,000 known ethno-linguistic peoples in the world, 10,000 already have a church-planting movement in their midst. . . . [At the end of 1994, of the 2,000 groups remaining ] only 1,000 have virtually no penetration. . . . Today we have a target list of least-evangelized peoples that is being revised each year to reflect greater accuracy. The 100 largest of these peoples . . . represent almost two billion people."8 They are found mainly in the Muslim, Hindu, Buddhist and Animist peoples of the so-called 10/40 Window.9 It seems to me that Rick Wood is not overstating things when he says, "Never before in Christian history has there been such a large movement with so many sincere believers, churches denominations and agencies working together toward the common goal of a church for every people. This level of global cooperation is unprecedented."10
Missionsis Finishable, But Not Evangelism
To keep us sober in our estimates of the remaining task of reaching the unreached people groups of the world, Ralph Winter reminds us of two facts.
First, evangelism can never be finished, but missions can be finished. The reason is this: missions has the unique task of crossing language and culture barriers to penetrate a people group and establish a church movement; but evangelism is the ongoing task of sharing the gospel among people within the same culture. This fact allows us to talk realistically about "closure" -- the completion of the missionary task, even if there may be millions of people yet to be won to Christ in all the people groups of the world where the church has been planted.
The second fact Winter reminds us of is that there are probably more people groups than the ones listed among the 12,000 ethno-linguistic groups mentioned above. He illustrates by pointing out that tribal divisions along the lines of mutually unintelligible dialects may vary depending on whether the dialect is spoken or written. So, for example, Wycliffe Bible translators may detect that a translation of the Bible is readable in a dialect covering a wide area, while Gospel Recordings may determine that seven or more different audio recordings are needed because of the audible distinctions in the larger dialect.
Thus Winter asks, which level of people group did Jesus have in mind when he said, "This gospel of the kingdom will be preached in the whole world as a testimony to all the peoples, and then the end will come" (Matthew 24:14)? His answer: "We'll find out . . . the closer we get to the situation. In the meantime we need to live with guesses. . . . We can only learn more as we go! And at this hour greater human resources are looming into view than have ever been available to the unfinished task!"11
The point of these observations is that the job of Frontier Missions is not complete. In fact the vast majority of missionaries are working on "fields" where the church has been planted for decades. The need for frontier missionaries is great. The Lord's command to disciple the remaining unreached groups is still in force. And my burden in this chapter is to kindle a desire in your heart to be part of the last chapter of the greatest story in the world.
So the remaining task of Frontier Missions no longer is conceived mainly in geographic terms. The question now is, "Where are the unreached people groups?"7
Since the first edition of Desiring God appeared in 1986 there has been tremendous progress in the cooperation of mission agencies, denominations and churches in the tasks of researching and evangelizing the unreached peoples of the world. There is now basic agreement that "of the 12,000 known ethno-linguistic peoples in the world, 10,000 already have a church-planting movement in their midst. . . . [At the end of 1994, of the 2,000 groups remaining ] only 1,000 have virtually no penetration. . . . Today we have a target list of least-evangelized peoples that is being revised each year to reflect greater accuracy. The 100 largest of these peoples . . . represent almost two billion people."8 They are found mainly in the Muslim, Hindu, Buddhist and Animist peoples of the so-called 10/40 Window.9 It seems to me that Rick Wood is not overstating things when he says, "Never before in Christian history has there been such a large movement with so many sincere believers, churches denominations and agencies working together toward the common goal of a church for every people. This level of global cooperation is unprecedented."10
Missionsis Finishable, But Not Evangelism
To keep us sober in our estimates of the remaining task of reaching the unreached people groups of the world, Ralph Winter reminds us of two facts.
First, evangelism can never be finished, but missions can be finished. The reason is this: missions has the unique task of crossing language and culture barriers to penetrate a people group and establish a church movement; but evangelism is the ongoing task of sharing the gospel among people within the same culture. This fact allows us to talk realistically about "closure" -- the completion of the missionary task, even if there may be millions of people yet to be won to Christ in all the people groups of the world where the church has been planted.
The second fact Winter reminds us of is that there are probably more people groups than the ones listed among the 12,000 ethno-linguistic groups mentioned above. He illustrates by pointing out that tribal divisions along the lines of mutually unintelligible dialects may vary depending on whether the dialect is spoken or written. So, for example, Wycliffe Bible translators may detect that a translation of the Bible is readable in a dialect covering a wide area, while Gospel Recordings may determine that seven or more different audio recordings are needed because of the audible distinctions in the larger dialect.
Thus Winter asks, which level of people group did Jesus have in mind when he said, "This gospel of the kingdom will be preached in the whole world as a testimony to all the peoples, and then the end will come" (Matthew 24:14)? His answer: "We'll find out . . . the closer we get to the situation. In the meantime we need to live with guesses. . . . We can only learn more as we go! And at this hour greater human resources are looming into view than have ever been available to the unfinished task!"11
The point of these observations is that the job of Frontier Missions is not complete. In fact the vast majority of missionaries are working on "fields" where the church has been planted for decades. The need for frontier missionaries is great. The Lord's command to disciple the remaining unreached groups is still in force. And my burden in this chapter is to kindle a desire in your heart to be part of the last chapter of the greatest story in the world.
Dramatic
Growth!
There are historical as well as theological reasons for hope that the task of world missions is finishable...
There are historical as well as theological reasons for hope that the task of world missions is finishable...
Ralph
Winter has observed that the drop from 11 to 7 (62%) between 1980 and
1989 (in the second column) is equivalent to the drop from 360 to 220
(62%) in the first 900 years of church history! The two measurements
in the second and fourth columns, and the trends that they reveal,
are two of the most hopeful insights in the study of church growth.
Even though there is an ongoing and urgent need for more frontier
missionaries to penetrate the final unreached peoples with the
gospel, it seems that the momentum of closure is accelerating. In
addition to the iron-clad promise of Jesus in Matthew 24:14, that the
gospel will penetrate all the peoples, there is the empirical
evidence that this is in fact happening, and at an increasing rate.
It is "A Finishable Task"!
Becoming World Christians
I would like to believe that many of you who read this chapter are on the brink of setting a new course of commitment to missions: some a new commitment to go to a frontier people, others a new path of education, others a new use of your vocation in a culture less saturated by the church, others a new lifestyle and a new pattern of giving and praying and reading. I want to push you over the brink. I would like to make the cause of missions so attractive that you will no longer be able to resist its magnetism.
Not that I believe everyone will become a missionary, or even should become one. But I pray that every reader of this book might become what David Bryant calls a World Christian-that you would reorder your life around God's global cause. In his inspiring book In the Gap, Bryant defines World Christians as that group of Christians who say,
Becoming World Christians
I would like to believe that many of you who read this chapter are on the brink of setting a new course of commitment to missions: some a new commitment to go to a frontier people, others a new path of education, others a new use of your vocation in a culture less saturated by the church, others a new lifestyle and a new pattern of giving and praying and reading. I want to push you over the brink. I would like to make the cause of missions so attractive that you will no longer be able to resist its magnetism.
Not that I believe everyone will become a missionary, or even should become one. But I pray that every reader of this book might become what David Bryant calls a World Christian-that you would reorder your life around God's global cause. In his inspiring book In the Gap, Bryant defines World Christians as that group of Christians who say,
We want to
accept personal responsibility for reaching some of earth's
unreached, especially from among the billions at the widest end of
the Gap who can only be reached through major new efforts by God's
people Among every people-group where there is no vital, evangelizing
Christian community there should be one, there must be one, there
shall be one. Together we want to help make this happen.16
The Rich
Young Ruler
The biblical basis for the missions commitment of a Christian Hedonist is found in the story of the rich young ruler (Mark 10:17-31)
The biblical basis for the missions commitment of a Christian Hedonist is found in the story of the rich young ruler (Mark 10:17-31)
And he said
to him, "Teacher, all these I have observed from my youth."
And Jesus looking upon him loved him, and said to him, "You lack
one thing; go, sell what you have, and give to the poor, and you will
have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me." At that saying
his countenance fell, and he went away sorrowful; for he had great
possessions.
And Jesus
looked around and said to his disciples, "How hard it will be
for those who have riches to enter the kingdom of God!" And the
disciples were amazed at his words. But Jesus said to them again,
"Children, how hard it is to enter the kingdom of God! It is
easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich
man to enter the kingdom of God."
And they
were exceedingly astonished, and said to him, "Then who can be
saved?" Jesus looked at them and said, "With men it is
impossible, but not with God; for all things are possible with God."
Peter began to say to him, "Look, we have left everything and
followed you." Jesus said, "Truly, I say to you, there is
no one who has left house or brothers or sisters or mother or father
or children or lands, for my sake and for the gospel, who will not
receive a hundredfold now in this time, houses and brothers and
sisters and mothers and children and lands, with persecutions, and in
the age to come eternal life. But many that are first will be last,
and the last first."
This story contains at least two great incentives for being totally dedicated to the cause of Frontier Missions.
With Men It Is Impossible, but Not with God
First, in Mark 10:25-27 Jesus said to his disciples, "It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God."
And
they were astonished and said to him, "Then who can be saved?"
Jesus looked at them and said, `With men it is impossible, but not
with God; for all things are possible with God."
This is one of the most encouraging missionary conversations in the Bible. What missionary has not looked on his work and said, "It's impossible!"? To which Jesus agrees, "Yes, with men it is impossible." No mere human being can liberate another human being from the enslaving power of the love of money. The rich young ruler went away sorrowful because the bondage to things cannot be broken by man. With man it is impossible! And therefore missionary work, which is simply liberating the human heart from bondage to allegiances other than Christ, is impossible-with men! If God were not in charge in this affair, doing the humanly impossible, the missionary task would be hopeless. Who but God can raise the spiritually dead and give them an ear for the gospel? "Even when we were dead through our trespasses, God made us alive together with Christ" (Ephesians 2:5). The great missionary hope is that when the gospel is preached in the power of the Holy Spirit, God himself does what man cannot do-he creates the faith which saves.
The call of God does what the call of man can't. It raises the dead. It creates spiritual life. It is like the call of Jesus to Lazarus in the tomb, "Come forth!" (John 11:43). We can waken someone from sleep with our call, but God's call can summon into being things that are not (Romans 4:17).
God's call is irresistible in the sense that it can overcome all resistance. It is infallibly effective according to God's purpose-so much so that Paul can say, "Those whom God called he also justified." In other words, God's call is so effectual that it infallibly creates the faith through which a person is justified. All the called are justified. But none is justified without faith (Romans 5 :1 ) . So the call of God cannot fail in its intended effect. It irresistibly secures the faith that justifies.
This is what man cannot do. It is impossible. Only God can take out the heart of stone (Ezekiel 36: 26) . Only God can draw people to the Son (John 6:44,65) . Only God can open the heart so that it gives heed to the gospel (Acts 16:14). Only the Good Shepherd knows his sheep by name. He calls them and they follow. The sovereign grace of God, doing the humanly impossible, is the great missionary hope.
Two
Kinds of Self Love
When Peter blurted out that he had sacrificed everything, he had not thought as deeply as David Brainerd and David Livingstone. As a young missionary to the Indians of New England, Brainerd wrestled with the issue of self-love and self-denial. On January 24, 1744, he wrote in his diary,
When Peter blurted out that he had sacrificed everything, he had not thought as deeply as David Brainerd and David Livingstone. As a young missionary to the Indians of New England, Brainerd wrestled with the issue of self-love and self-denial. On January 24, 1744, he wrote in his diary,
Brainerd knew in his soul that in seeking to live for the glory of God, he was loving himself! He knew there was no ultimate sacrifice going on, though he was dying of tuberculosis. Yet he knew that Jesus condemned some form of self-love and commended some form of self-denial. So he endorsed a distinction between a self-love that separates our pursuit of happiness from our pursuit of God's glory, and a self-love that combines these pursuits into "one common interest." In other words, he did not make Peter's mistake of thinking his suffering for Christ was ultimately sacrificial. With everything he gave up there came new experiences of the glory of God. A hundredfold!
"I Never Made a Sacrifice"
On December 4, 1857, David Livingstone, the great pioneer missionary to Africa, made a stirring appeal to the students of Cambridge University, showing that he had learned through years of experience what Jesus was trying to teach Peter:
For my own
part, I have never ceased to rejoice that God has appointed me to
such an office. People talk of the sacrifice I have made in spending
so much of my life in Africa. Can that be called a sacrifice which is
simply paid back as a small part of a great debt owing to our God,
which we can never repay? Is that a sacrifice which brings its own
blest reward in healthful activity, the consciousness of doing good,
peace of mind, and a bright hope of a glorious destiny hereafter?
Away with the word in such a view, and with such a thought! It is
emphatically no sacrifice. Say rather it is a privilege. Anxiety,
sickness, suffering, or danger, now and then, with a foregoing of the
common conveniences and charities of this life, may make us pause,
and cause the spirit to waver, and the soul to sink; but let this
only be for a moment. All these are nothing when compared with the
glory which shall be revealed in and for us. I never made a
sacrifice.21
One sentence of
this quote is, I think, unhelpful and inconsistent: "Can that be
called a sacrifice which is simply paid back as a small part of a
great debt owing to our God, which we can never repay?" I don't
think it is helpful to describe our obedience as an attempt (albeit
impossible) to pay God back for his grace. It is a contradiction of
free grace to think of it that way. Not only is it unhelpful, it is
inconsistent with the rest of what Livingstone says. He says his
obedience is in fact more receiving-healthful, peaceful, hopeful. It
would honor God's grace and value more if we dropped the notion of
paying him back at all. We are not involved in a trade or purchase.
We have received a gift. But this reservation aside, the last line is
magnificent: "I never made a sacrifice."
This is what Jesus' rebuke to Peter's sacrificial (self-pitying?) spirit was supposed to teach. Our great incentive for throwing our lives into the cause of Frontier Missions is the 10,000-percent return on the investment. Missionaries have borne witness to this from the beginning-since the apostle Paul.
Paul was bold to say that everything was garbage compared to knowing and suffering with Jesus:
This is what Jesus' rebuke to Peter's sacrificial (self-pitying?) spirit was supposed to teach. Our great incentive for throwing our lives into the cause of Frontier Missions is the 10,000-percent return on the investment. Missionaries have borne witness to this from the beginning-since the apostle Paul.
Paul was bold to say that everything was garbage compared to knowing and suffering with Jesus:
This
slight momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of
glory beyond all comparison. (2 Corinthians 4:17)
I do
it all for the sake of the gospel, that I may share in its blessings.
(1 Corinthians 9:23)22
Holy
Missionaries Are Most Hedonistic
It is simply amazing how consistent are the testimonies of missionaries who have suffered for the gospel. Virtually all of them bear witness of the abundant joy and overriding compensations (a hundredfold!).
Colin Grant describes how the Moravian Brethren were sending missionaries out from the mountains of Saxony in central Europe sixty years before William Carey set out for India. With utter abandon they reached the West Indies, Surinam, North America, Greenland, South Africa, China and Persia between 1732 and 1742-"a record without parallel in the post-New Testament era of world evangelization." In recounting the main characteristics of this movement, Grant puts "glad obedience" at the top of the list. "In the first place, the missionary obedience of the Moravian Brethren was essentially glad and spontaneous, `the response of a healthy organism to the law of its life.'"23
Andrew Murray refers to this "law of life" in his missionary classic Key to the Missionary Problem. Nature teaches us that every believer should be a soul-winner: "It is an essential part of the new nature. We see it in every child who loves to tell of his happiness and to bring others to share his joys."24 Missions is the automatic outflow and overflow of love for Christ. We delight to enlarge our joy in him by extending it to others. As Lottie Moon said, "Surely there can be no greater joy than that of saving souls."25
What Lottie Moon did in promoting the cause of foreign missions among Southern Baptist women in the United States, Amy Carmichael did among the Christian women of all denominations in the United Kingdom. She wrote thirty-five books detailing her fifty-five years in India. Sherwood Eddy, a missionary statesman and author who knew her well, said, "Amy Wilson Carmichael was the most Christlike character I ever met, and . . . her life was the most fragrant, the most joyfully sacrificial, that I ever knew."26 "Joyfully sacrificial!" That is what Jesus was after when he rebuked Peter's sacrificial spirit in Mark 10:29-30.
John Hyde, better known as "Praying Hyde," led a life of incredibly intense prayer as a missionary to India at the turn of the century. Some thought him morose. But a story about him reveals the true spirit behind his life of sacrificial prayer.
A worldly lady once thought she would have a little fun at Mr. Hyde's expense. So she asked, "Don't you think, Mr. Hyde, that a lady who dances can go to heaven?" He looked at her with a smile, said quietly, "I do not see how a lady can go to heaven unless she dances." Then he dwelt on the joy of sin forgiven.27
Samuel Zwemer, famous for his missionary work among the Muslims, gives a stirring witness to the joy of sacrifice. In 1897 he and his wife and two daughters sailed to the Persian Gulf to work among the Muslims of Bahrein. Their evangelism was largely fruitless. The temperatures soared regularly to 107 "in the coolest part of the verandah." In July 1904 both the daughters, ages four and seven, died within eight days of each other. Nevertheless, fifty years later Zwemer looked back on this period and wrote, "The sheer joy of it all comes back. Gladly would I do it all over again."28
In the end, the reason Jesus rebukes us for a self-pitying spirit of sacrifice is that he aims to be glorified in the great missionary enterprise. And the way he aims to be glorified is by keeping himself in the role of benefactor and keeping us in the role of beneficiaries. He never intends for the patient and the physician to reverse roles. Even if we are called to be missionaries, we remain invalids in Christ's sanatorium. We are still in need of a good physician. We are still dependent on him to do the humanly impossible in us and through us. We may sacrifice other things to enter Christ's hospital, but we are there for our spiritual health, not to pay back a debt to the doctor!
Invalids Make the Best Missionaries
Daniel Fuller uses this picture of patient and doctor to show how the effective missionary avoids the presumption of assisting God:
It is simply amazing how consistent are the testimonies of missionaries who have suffered for the gospel. Virtually all of them bear witness of the abundant joy and overriding compensations (a hundredfold!).
Colin Grant describes how the Moravian Brethren were sending missionaries out from the mountains of Saxony in central Europe sixty years before William Carey set out for India. With utter abandon they reached the West Indies, Surinam, North America, Greenland, South Africa, China and Persia between 1732 and 1742-"a record without parallel in the post-New Testament era of world evangelization." In recounting the main characteristics of this movement, Grant puts "glad obedience" at the top of the list. "In the first place, the missionary obedience of the Moravian Brethren was essentially glad and spontaneous, `the response of a healthy organism to the law of its life.'"23
Andrew Murray refers to this "law of life" in his missionary classic Key to the Missionary Problem. Nature teaches us that every believer should be a soul-winner: "It is an essential part of the new nature. We see it in every child who loves to tell of his happiness and to bring others to share his joys."24 Missions is the automatic outflow and overflow of love for Christ. We delight to enlarge our joy in him by extending it to others. As Lottie Moon said, "Surely there can be no greater joy than that of saving souls."25
What Lottie Moon did in promoting the cause of foreign missions among Southern Baptist women in the United States, Amy Carmichael did among the Christian women of all denominations in the United Kingdom. She wrote thirty-five books detailing her fifty-five years in India. Sherwood Eddy, a missionary statesman and author who knew her well, said, "Amy Wilson Carmichael was the most Christlike character I ever met, and . . . her life was the most fragrant, the most joyfully sacrificial, that I ever knew."26 "Joyfully sacrificial!" That is what Jesus was after when he rebuked Peter's sacrificial spirit in Mark 10:29-30.
John Hyde, better known as "Praying Hyde," led a life of incredibly intense prayer as a missionary to India at the turn of the century. Some thought him morose. But a story about him reveals the true spirit behind his life of sacrificial prayer.
A worldly lady once thought she would have a little fun at Mr. Hyde's expense. So she asked, "Don't you think, Mr. Hyde, that a lady who dances can go to heaven?" He looked at her with a smile, said quietly, "I do not see how a lady can go to heaven unless she dances." Then he dwelt on the joy of sin forgiven.27
Samuel Zwemer, famous for his missionary work among the Muslims, gives a stirring witness to the joy of sacrifice. In 1897 he and his wife and two daughters sailed to the Persian Gulf to work among the Muslims of Bahrein. Their evangelism was largely fruitless. The temperatures soared regularly to 107 "in the coolest part of the verandah." In July 1904 both the daughters, ages four and seven, died within eight days of each other. Nevertheless, fifty years later Zwemer looked back on this period and wrote, "The sheer joy of it all comes back. Gladly would I do it all over again."28
In the end, the reason Jesus rebukes us for a self-pitying spirit of sacrifice is that he aims to be glorified in the great missionary enterprise. And the way he aims to be glorified is by keeping himself in the role of benefactor and keeping us in the role of beneficiaries. He never intends for the patient and the physician to reverse roles. Even if we are called to be missionaries, we remain invalids in Christ's sanatorium. We are still in need of a good physician. We are still dependent on him to do the humanly impossible in us and through us. We may sacrifice other things to enter Christ's hospital, but we are there for our spiritual health, not to pay back a debt to the doctor!
Invalids Make the Best Missionaries
Daniel Fuller uses this picture of patient and doctor to show how the effective missionary avoids the presumption of assisting God:
An
analogy for understanding how to live the Christian life without
being a legalist is to think of ourselves as being sick and needing a
doctor's help in order to get well. Men begin life with a disposition
so inclined to evil that Jesus called them "children of hell"
(Matthew 23:15).... In Mark 2:17 and elsewhere Jesus likened Himself
to a doctor with the task of healing man's sins; He received the name
"Jesus" because it was His mission to "save His people
from their sins" (Matthew 1:21). The moment we turn from loving
things in this world to bank our hope on God and His promises summed
up in Jesus Christ, Jesus takes us, as it were, into His clinic to
heal us of our hellish dispositions.... True faith means not only
being confident that one's sins are forgiven but also means believing
God's promises that we will have a happy future through eternity. Or,
to revert to the metaphor of medicine and the clinic, we must entrust
our sick selves to Christ as the Great Physician, with confidence
that He will work until our hellishness is transformed into
godliness.
Saturday, March 15, 2014
Satisfaction by J Campbell White
Most men are not satisfied with the permanent output of their lives. Nothing can wholly satisfy the life of Christ within his followers except the adoption of Christ's purpose toward the world he came to redeem. Fame, pleasure and riches are but husks and ashes in contrast with the boundless and abiding joy of working with God for the fulfillment of his eternal plans. The men who are putting everything into Christ's undertaking are getting out of life its sweetest and most priceless rewards.
J. Campbell White ( 1909)
Secretary of the Laymen's Missionary Movement
Friday, March 14, 2014
Lust and Beauty by Checkov
What attracts me?
What attracts me?
Beauty attracts me. She would turn my head in a second, but thats not love now is it?
Author: Checkov
Source: Mvie- "Vanya on 42nd Street"
Thursday, March 13, 2014
Shakespeare on marriage
Many a good man has been saved a bad marriage by a good hanging.
William Shakespeare
Twelfth Night
Manhood George Macdonald ; Phantasties
I learned that he that will be a hero, will barely be a man, that he will be nothing but a doer of his work is sure of his manhood. George Macdonald Phantasties pp165
Pascal on Loving God
What a vast distance there is between knowing God and Loving him!
Date: 1623-1662
Author: Blaise Pascal
Source: The History Of Christianity, Lion
- Following God, Christian life
March 2014 Southwest Spirit Mag : Growing a culture of generosity can pay dividends down the line.
Growing a culture of generosity can pay dividends down the line.
By Jill Coody Smits
In business, the long view—the one where you keep your eyes on the future and on the world beyond your office door—isn’t always an easy gaze to hold. What with profits to make and salaries to pay, keeping your eyes anywhere but on your wallet and the challenge at hand can feel impossibly idealistic.
By Jill Coody Smits
In business, the long view—the one where you keep your eyes on the future and on the world beyond your office door—isn’t always an easy gaze to hold. What with profits to make and salaries to pay, keeping your eyes anywhere but on your wallet and the challenge at hand can feel impossibly idealistic.
But there’s a growing business case to be made for the long view, whether you’re opening a new store, writing a strategic plan, or networking at happy hour. It requires that you renounce short-term thinking, fly your generosity flag, and eschew the “whatever it takes” mentality found in boardrooms big and small. It’s a kinder, gentler way of doing business, and it may be the surest route to the top.
The Tao of Burger Joints
For years, Patrick Terry daydreamed about opening a burger stand, a vision that is still laced with idealism. He says, “I like the idea of a burger, fries, and a milkshake; I like the exchange of that, and think it’s really pleasant.”
After reading the decidedly unpleasant book Fast Food Nation, Terry and his wife, Kathy, decided to make his dream a reality, but to do it atypically. In 2005, the first P. Terry’s Burger Stand opened on a busy corner in Austin, Texas, with a mission to reinvent the fast-food industry depicted in Eric Schlosser’s 2001 best seller.
From quality ingredients and fair wages to good customer service and earth-friendly practices, Terry says, “The mantra has always been ‘do the right thing.’ We mumble that to ourselves when making decisions.” Moreover, Terry says his strategy from the outset was “to build something of substance, something that would be around for a long time.”
Nine years later, P. Terry’s is working on its ninth stand. They pay their 300-plus employees well above minimum wage, offer Spanish-speaking employees English lessons, give interest-free emergency loans to help people get into an apartment or a car, and always promote from within. Employee bonuses totaled up to more than $65,000 in December 2013.
The Tao of Burger Joints
For years, Patrick Terry daydreamed about opening a burger stand, a vision that is still laced with idealism. He says, “I like the idea of a burger, fries, and a milkshake; I like the exchange of that, and think it’s really pleasant.”
After reading the decidedly unpleasant book Fast Food Nation, Terry and his wife, Kathy, decided to make his dream a reality, but to do it atypically. In 2005, the first P. Terry’s Burger Stand opened on a busy corner in Austin, Texas, with a mission to reinvent the fast-food industry depicted in Eric Schlosser’s 2001 best seller.
From quality ingredients and fair wages to good customer service and earth-friendly practices, Terry says, “The mantra has always been ‘do the right thing.’ We mumble that to ourselves when making decisions.” Moreover, Terry says his strategy from the outset was “to build something of substance, something that would be around for a long time.”
Nine years later, P. Terry’s is working on its ninth stand. They pay their 300-plus employees well above minimum wage, offer Spanish-speaking employees English lessons, give interest-free emergency loans to help people get into an apartment or a car, and always promote from within. Employee bonuses totaled up to more than $65,000 in December 2013.
In addition to taking good care of employees, P. Terry’s uses all-natural beef and healthy ingredients, recycles all paper and cardboard from the back of the house, and has donated more than $332,000 to local causes. Terry says the stands themselves are designed to be places that make the street nicer for years to come.
All of that investment—in structures, healthy products, employees, and sustainability—is costly. Especially when you consider that their burger goes for $2. Still, Terry says the effort is both essential and worthwhile. There’s gravy, too, in the form of happy customers.
Make Way for the Commons
....
Leo Burke, director of the Global Commons Initiative at Notre Dame’s Mendoza College of Business, says all businesspeople should be mindful of the outside world, because “business exists for the good of society, not the other way around.” (Take THAT, Wolf of Wall Street.)
A former Motorola executive, Burke launched the GCI in 2012 with the goal of educating students about the commons “so that they can make better business decisions that contribute to the greater good.” The “commons” in Burke’s initiative are an ancient concept he explains as the “tangible and intangible resources that sustain and enhance life that must be collectively governed by users for the good of current beneficiaries and future generations.”
All of that investment—in structures, healthy products, employees, and sustainability—is costly. Especially when you consider that their burger goes for $2. Still, Terry says the effort is both essential and worthwhile. There’s gravy, too, in the form of happy customers.
Make Way for the Commons
....
Leo Burke, director of the Global Commons Initiative at Notre Dame’s Mendoza College of Business, says all businesspeople should be mindful of the outside world, because “business exists for the good of society, not the other way around.” (Take THAT, Wolf of Wall Street.)
A former Motorola executive, Burke launched the GCI in 2012 with the goal of educating students about the commons “so that they can make better business decisions that contribute to the greater good.” The “commons” in Burke’s initiative are an ancient concept he explains as the “tangible and intangible resources that sustain and enhance life that must be collectively governed by users for the good of current beneficiaries and future generations.”
...
According to Burke, the market is not yet beginning to demand that perspective, at least not in a mainstream way. However, “people are beginning to understand that if we don’t protect the common good, there won’t be healthy markets.”
According to Burke, the market is not yet beginning to demand that perspective, at least not in a mainstream way. However, “people are beginning to understand that if we don’t protect the common good, there won’t be healthy markets.”
So, what is a well-intentioned company to do? “A very narrowly defined view of business is you grab the input resources at their cheapest and maximize profits by unloading at any cost,” says Burke. A better way, he insists, is to take a hard look at your business and ask whether anyone or anything is being exploited along the way. Do you ship using eco-friendly materials? Are you paying a fair wage? Do you give back to your community in some meaningful way?
Of course, it’s not always simple to factor in the greater good, particularly after a troubling quarterly meeting. But, Burke says even small positive steps are valuable.
Good Guys (and Gals) Finish First
...
These efforts matter, Burke says, and from bond ratings that factor in sustainability practices to customers with high expectations, they will likely have more and more impact on success. It’s a natural progression. Many companies, like Patagonia, are already holding themselves to a higher standard, and they make a profit. Terry says the connection between the “do good” mantra and the success of their burger stands is undeniable. “I get too many customer comments to think otherwise.”
Give a Little, Gain a Lot
Even on an individual scale, there is evidence that generous people are more successful than selfish ones.
In his book, Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success, Wharton professor Adam Grant contends that most people fall into one of three categories: givers, takers, or matchers. Givers give with no expectation of return, takers are only in it for themselves, and matchers give based on an assumption of reciprocity.
Motivation, skills, and opportunity being equal, guess who tends to be the most successful?
While all types can and do succeed, Grant found that givers tend to be especially successful more often, in part because they create a large network of people who happily reciprocate their “no strings attached” generosity. In addition, once you’re known as the helpful guy, people begin “rooting rather than gunning for you,” and new doors begin to open.
There’s a fine line between “supreme giver” and “doormat,” however, and a pile of givers can be found at the bottom of the ladder. Grant says the key to supremacy is giving in a way that doesn’t compromise your goals and success.
Successful givers tend to be generous with givers and matchers, but cautious of takers. Failed givers respond to everyone, which can result in a “jack of all trades, master of none” problem. A more effective way, Grant says, is to focus giving in a few areas you enjoy and are uniquely qualified for, which makes the giving feel “energizing and efficient rather than distracting and exhausting.”
Do so and—voilà . You’ve just carved out your niche, which means folks won’t come knocking every time they need a random favor.
Most of us are matchers, however, and Grant says we tit-for-tat masses make a few mistakes. The first is giving off a transactional vibe. (Conversely, givers make favors “feel like an investment in a meaningful relationship.”) The second is that matchers only help people who can pay it back—a shortsighted view of networking.
As for takers, well, they win some and lose some, but they’re bad for business. “When you get groups of employees willing to give, you have more innovation from shared knowledge,” Grant says.
Leaders can encourage a giving culture by engaging in giving behaviors themselves. Things like putting organizational interests first (i.e., the corporate jet is not a personal chauffeur), sharing knowledge, and providing feedback have a way of trickling down.
Operating with the greater good in mind may not always be easy, but research suggests it can be a winning business strategy. So do successful business owners. “Once the philosophy gets implemented, it takes on a life of its own,” Terry says. “You connect with a high caliber of people, and it’s all just working in tandem.”
Who knows, if you do it right, you may just give your way into giving a Giving Pledge.
Jill Coody Smits is an Austin, Texas–based journalist. Find her online at blueseedcommunications.com.
http://www.spiritmag.com/click_this/article/business_idea_the_long_view/
Of course, it’s not always simple to factor in the greater good, particularly after a troubling quarterly meeting. But, Burke says even small positive steps are valuable.
Good Guys (and Gals) Finish First
...
These efforts matter, Burke says, and from bond ratings that factor in sustainability practices to customers with high expectations, they will likely have more and more impact on success. It’s a natural progression. Many companies, like Patagonia, are already holding themselves to a higher standard, and they make a profit. Terry says the connection between the “do good” mantra and the success of their burger stands is undeniable. “I get too many customer comments to think otherwise.”
Give a Little, Gain a Lot
Even on an individual scale, there is evidence that generous people are more successful than selfish ones.
In his book, Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success, Wharton professor Adam Grant contends that most people fall into one of three categories: givers, takers, or matchers. Givers give with no expectation of return, takers are only in it for themselves, and matchers give based on an assumption of reciprocity.
Motivation, skills, and opportunity being equal, guess who tends to be the most successful?
While all types can and do succeed, Grant found that givers tend to be especially successful more often, in part because they create a large network of people who happily reciprocate their “no strings attached” generosity. In addition, once you’re known as the helpful guy, people begin “rooting rather than gunning for you,” and new doors begin to open.
There’s a fine line between “supreme giver” and “doormat,” however, and a pile of givers can be found at the bottom of the ladder. Grant says the key to supremacy is giving in a way that doesn’t compromise your goals and success.
Successful givers tend to be generous with givers and matchers, but cautious of takers. Failed givers respond to everyone, which can result in a “jack of all trades, master of none” problem. A more effective way, Grant says, is to focus giving in a few areas you enjoy and are uniquely qualified for, which makes the giving feel “energizing and efficient rather than distracting and exhausting.”
Do so and—voilà . You’ve just carved out your niche, which means folks won’t come knocking every time they need a random favor.
Most of us are matchers, however, and Grant says we tit-for-tat masses make a few mistakes. The first is giving off a transactional vibe. (Conversely, givers make favors “feel like an investment in a meaningful relationship.”) The second is that matchers only help people who can pay it back—a shortsighted view of networking.
As for takers, well, they win some and lose some, but they’re bad for business. “When you get groups of employees willing to give, you have more innovation from shared knowledge,” Grant says.
Leaders can encourage a giving culture by engaging in giving behaviors themselves. Things like putting organizational interests first (i.e., the corporate jet is not a personal chauffeur), sharing knowledge, and providing feedback have a way of trickling down.
Operating with the greater good in mind may not always be easy, but research suggests it can be a winning business strategy. So do successful business owners. “Once the philosophy gets implemented, it takes on a life of its own,” Terry says. “You connect with a high caliber of people, and it’s all just working in tandem.”
Who knows, if you do it right, you may just give your way into giving a Giving Pledge.
Jill Coody Smits is an Austin, Texas–based journalist. Find her online at blueseedcommunications.com.
http://www.spiritmag.com/click_this/article/business_idea_the_long_view/
- generosity,
Wednesday, March 12, 2014
George MacDonald on Love
I know now, that it is by loving, and not by being loved, that one can come nearest the soul of another; yea, that, where two love, it is the loving of each other, and not the being beloved by each other, that originates and perfects and assures their blessedness
George MacDonald, Phantasties pp165
Monday, March 10, 2014
Space Burial and meaning in Life, Longevity and ...
the same Houston outfit that rocketed Leary's cremated remains in 1997 in the first commercial space burial is inviting the public to join him in intergalactic immortality. On Saturday, some people took them up on it.
At a busy Long Beach Aspace Fair convention, Carl Grillmaier paid $50 to send he and his wife's DNA - six strands of hair- and a personal message on the next voyage mounted by the firm Encounter 2001
Jacques Cousteau on Meaning in Life
He said, "I couldn't care less how I'm remembered or if I'm remembered. When life is finished it is finished."
Author: Jacques Cousteau
Date: June 26, 1997
Source: LA Times
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