You bet! You see, the hormones that cause all the physical changes in your body during puberty don’t just make you sprout hairs and suchlike. They also get working on your brain quite apart from that, sex is jolly interesting, and thinking about it can be a very nice, exciting thing to do with your spare time! Even if you can believe that you"re perfectly healthy and normal, thinking about sex all the time can still make you feel uneasy, because you can feel that you're losing control of your brain.
I often imagine having sex with people I know, or famous people. I really enjoy it. Is it okay?
Its called fantasising. It’s more than okay, and nearly everybody does it at some time in their life. It"s just like daydreaming, only its main purpose is to make you feel excited in a sexual way. Fantasising is a fantastically healthy way to discover more about your own sexual feelings, so you should never feel guilty about doing it.
others with strong religious beliefs that sex and the sexual organs only existed in order for married people to make babies, and that using the genitals for any kind of sexual pleasure B especially outside of marriage B was Asinful@. There are still people about who think the same way. Of course, everyone is entitled to their won beliefs, but people also have a right to know the truth. Facts are facts, and the plain truth is that masturbations is not harmful.
Some parents have very strong views that young people shouldn"t have sex at all, or that sex should be saved for marriage. Changing their minds is likely to be impossible. In cases like this, you"re best off keeping some things secret, but that doesn"t mean you should sneak around and go against what they say.
If you"re considering taking a relationship further i.e. Having sex not just for the first time but any time, you should always ask yourself these questions
Do I really like, fancy, care about or maybe even love my prospective partner?
Do they like fancy, care about or maybe even love me, too?
If I don"t feel like I want to have sex now, would my partner be prepared to wait until I do?
Am I certain that my partner is okay about us using a condom?
Have I or my partner got a condom already, or is one of us prepared to go out and buy some before we decide to have sex?
What if I don"t get a chance to think carefully before I have sex?
That happens. You might be in a very intimate situation - alone with someone, having a passionate snogging and petting session and suddenly you realise that you"re on the verge of losing your virginity. In these cases, you just have to go with your gut instinct do you really want to do it? Not because all your friends have, not because you"re scared of losing your partner, not because you figure you might as well now you"re this close to it, nor because your worried about being a tease if you back out, but because you really, really want to experience sex and closeness with this person, right now? If the answer is a definite yes, then as long as one of you has a condom ready to use, there"s no reason why you shouldn’t go ahead.
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Sex for sex's sake can be wonderful between two people who think the same way.
Source: Sex: How? Why? What? The Teenagers Guide, Jane Goldman Penguin Books, London
I say that is is a modern view, well to 1990 at least, but really this is an older person trying to write material to recruit people to think and act like she wants. She says honor your parents until they disagree with her view and then do what feels best for you. Said another way don't honor your parents just do what you want and if it happens to align with your parents so much the better.
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