Lasting Marriage - Mac Hammond

"But what if I married the wrong person?" many people ask. You'd be amazed how many people the devil torments with that question.

I remember a young lady who came to my office on day and insisted she had gotten out of God's will, married the wrong person. Now she was doomed to suffer until she got rid of him and found the right one or so she thought.

If you think that way, I have good news for you. God causes all things to work together for Good to those who love Christ and are called according to His purpose (Rom 8.28). Maybe you did miss God's best when you chose your spouse. Maybe you were in rebellion at the time. But God still wants to make that marriage Glorious, fulfilling reflection of Jesus relationship with he church.  He's committed to working that situation out for Good.

All you need to do is determine to make it work.

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The first attitude adjustment is decide once and forever that divorce is not and option. If you continue to consider divorce as even a remote possibility, you might as well stop reading this article ad go watch  television, because it isn't going to do you any good.

The second attitude adjustment you may need to make is this: you must be concerned with changing no one but yourself.

The third attitude adjustment you must make is forget the past. What do you need to forget the good things and things and the bad things.

Dwelling on the good things in the past will distort your perception of the present and undermine your hope for the future what do you need to forget, the good things and things and the bad things. They are startled to hear they should forget the good things in their past. If you dwell on how good things were in the past, you're creating in yourself dissatisfaction and resentment about the way things are now. you also open yourself up to a spirit of  grief and despair. It happens all the time. Women talk about how affectionate and considerate their husbands used to be, how attentive he was. But now, he's just an considerate louse.

Mac Hammond, Heirs together